Connect To The Youth In Your Family By Connecting Them To Their Family History


Showing posts with label Long Distance Family History. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Long Distance Family History. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 19, 2017

The Embrace of Family Traditions

Several years ago, I wrote on the Chart Chick blog about one of my favorite Christmas traditions (http://thechartchick.blogspot.com/2013/12/one-of-my-favorite-family-christmas.html) .  In my family, it is traditional to have English Trifle on Christmas Eve. I have British ancestry, and my Grandfather Darrell Dana loved it.  He loved all things custard and tapioca.  I get that from him.  We only have trifle on this one day of the year.  So it is really connected with Christmas to me. 

Christmas 1990 was my first Christmas away from home.  In fact, I was on the other side of the world.  My first marriage was falling apart and in those days you couldn't even call home much from so far away.  I was in the Middle East and the First Gulf War was about to break out.  It was a very stressful time.  I was lonely and it didn't seem like Christmas at all.  Some friends invited us over for Christmas Eve and when they brought out English Trifle for desert, it was like the heavens opened and the light shown down on my holiday.  It was a love note from home, from my ancestors, from the past.  Like a big warm hug.  The embrace of a Family Tradition.

When my Mom made trifle, year after year, she didn't know that she was sending that love note into the future.  But sometimes it is those little things that make those connections.  It can be those traditions and that shared history that ties us together.  Those are the pieces that make a family.  Traditions are part of the team narrative you have together.

This means so much more to me now that I have young adult children.  Next year, my eldest son will be the age I was in 1990.  All three of my kids are just about to leave the nest, and while I have them all home this Christmas, I find myself on the other side of this equation as the mother in the story. What have I done to create those bonds and establish the traditions that will bind my children to our family and fill their hearts with peace and love from us when they need it?  Like most well-intentioned mothers, I've made every mistake in the book.  And I'm trying to hug them enough right now.  But hopefully I've done enough that they will have those hugs from me in the future too.  Hopefully the right pieces will be there when they need it.

What are you doing in your family?  The holidays are a big time for traditions.  What are you doing this month to celebrate your family history and create a sense of heritage in your family?  Sometimes the best traditions are little ones that are practiced all through the year.  What will your family members have to embrace them during hard times?  Hug them now, but be intentional about the hugs you send into the future too.  My mom did, and I'm so thankful for that.

I'm bringing the trifle to our family gathering this Christmas Eve.  Thankfully my Mom and Dad will both be there and I'll get to share it with them and thank them again for this bit of light in my life.  How amazing that a simple thing like a trifle could mean so much. 


Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Great Ideas from our readers

Yikes.  Where did the month go?  Life seems to be speeding up faster than I can keep up.  But it is good to be busy.  And I've got lots of new ideas to share with you.  So slow as they might be, keep your eyes peeled and I'll keep them coming. 

RootsTech was wonderful.  I've got several things to share with you about that.  But to start with, it was so great to meet with people who have been using our Zap The Grandma Gap resources and hear about the successes they are having in their families.  Here are a couple of great ideas we heard in the vendors hall:

One lady talked to me about having a contest on facebook to garner interest for the upcoming family reunion.  She had created a family facebook page and was going to ask one question a week.  The person with the most answers would win a prize at the family reunion.  I think you could also do this with a small prize every week.  I know I've seen situations where it amazes me what people will do for a package of M&Ms or a candy bar.  And the price of candy bar and shipping would be much once a week or once a month. 

Someone else talked about how she was going to start telling family history stories at bed time to her 1 year old son.  I think that is a wonderful way to start them young.  Kudos!

And another lady came up and told us that her 11 year old had decided to form a family history club with her friends on Saturday mornings.  They get together and bring pictures, make family recipes and learn about their ancestors.  Brilliant!  She wouldn't let mom help either.  That is excellent ownership. 

We passed out copies of the paper dolls from our new activity books.  And as we were passing them out, we reminded everyone that paper dolls is not only a great way to tell stories about your family, but they needed to utilize the time while they are coloring and cutting them out to tell stories as well.  Drawing pictures, or any kind of creative activity together is great story telling time.

Hope some of these ideas provide inspiration to you about activities to do with your family.  They sure do to me.  

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Taking my daughter on a family history trip

There is nothing like travel to engage your family with their family history.  It can be near or far.  A couple of weeks ago I got to take my daughter to the Southern California Genealogy Society Conference. We had a great time on the trip, but we also got to do a little family history.  My mother grew up in Southern California and my Grandparents and Great Grandmother spent most of their lives there.  So we decided to stop by some of the old places.  

We stopped by the beach.
Mom and her sister on the left in the late 40s, Dad and I in the center in the 70s, My daughter on the right

We rode the carousel at the Santa Monica Pier.
Mom and her sister on the left in the 50s, My daughter and I on the right

We stopped by the temple where Mom and Dad were married.
Mom and Dad June 2, 1967, My daughter on the right

And we stopped by the house where my Mom grew up.
Mom and her sister on the left in the 50s, Grandpa and I in the center in the 70s, My daughter on the rightI was glad to see my Grandparent's house was being well taken care of now.   It didn't look so good when it was for sale last year when we stopped by with my son.

Next time we go to California, I'm going to see if I can recreate some of the old photos.  We did this for my parents for Mother's Day and Father's Day.  I've never laughed so hard in my life.  My sister put them together into a video for each of them.  It was a fun project that might work in your family too.  Watch out though.. I've never felt so old in my life either.  Time flies when  you are having fun. 


Monday, June 17, 2013

Treat Review

Joan Elder sent me a follow up to her tea parties idea.  I'm so excited to share it with you.  She sent some pictures of the activities she's done and this addition:

Joan writes, "We did story telling for Memorial Day with about 20 of us. The key seems to be keeping the children focused so the adults will be focused. So I did 5 min stories. I found an item that would 'remind me' about that story. I told the children that whoever was sitting quietly, and listening well, would get to pick the next item in my bag. I had done this two years ago with three of these chidren, and the other ones followed their lead. The big eyes looking back at me told me that they were captivated (aged 3-9). The parents sat further away on the sofas, while the children all made a half circle around me on the floor. I was animated and dramatic. It was so fun!  I told the adults that it was going to be about 30 minutes of story telling, but after the adults started joining in, and adding to the story, it went well over an hour. I quit before the enthusiasm wained. We had an audio recorder going to help me get the 'rest of the story' from the adults, so I can add that to the written story.

Afterwards, I talked to one of the dad's, and told him I planned on writing these all up along with pictures. He got really excited, and gave me his email. But I am going to have them printed, and put in page protectors, and in a nice three ring binder, with a picture of the kids and I on the front. I'll name it something like: Aunt Joan's Family Stories (or Bedtime Stories, but some of them were quite frightening). Then give one to each family to re-read with their children.

We all live some distance from each other. So I choose people living and dead, so they could get to know something about all of us.

I have attached 2 pictures from the first story time I did with the kids. I don't know if it can help you, but you are welcome to use any of them you want. I love the captivated faces.

The other fun part about this is, I am getting my histories done, one story at a time as I prepare for these story telling events." 


Then Joan sent some more ideas on how she works with the kids to make sure they retain what they've learned.  I love her ideas here because she knows that everything works better with food :) and that when you pull the kids in, it often works on other members of the family too.  Great job Joan.  I hope these ideas work for your family too. 

Joan says, "Well after I have done these fun tea parties, and Mother's Day stories (and I have ones already planned for Father's Day),
I don't want those sweet kids to forget!  On Mother's Day, we only spent 15-20 minutes. That's not alot of time to tell of someone's life, or several.
So I have decided to keep on hand the treats from one of those people. Just so happens to be that it is orange sherbet and french bread (toasted).
So I bag up and hide the sherbet from my husband and teenage son (myself too), and buy the french bread on sale, cut it in slices, and freeze in the portions of one little family coming over. So I am 'prepared'!

So when the grandkids drop in unexpectedly, I ask mom and dad if it is okay for some orange sherbet, and then go dish up a scoop in cute bowls. When I bring the tray out, I have some very excited children. 'To get served', they must answer my questions about the grandma that used to serve this treat to their Uncle Ken and I when we were kids. Questions like:

What is her name?  What is her last name?
What did she say when she got excited? (Oh My Stars!)

Now those are about all the things they learned on Mother's Day, so depending on how well they did, I add a little more to it:

And what did her dad do for a living? (mail carrier with a wagon and horses)
And what happened sometimes in the winter? ('The wolves chasing his mail wagon ' story)
And what was his name?  (Chris Lillethun)

Then I distribute the sherbet, and while we are eating it together, I share a little more about that ancestor and thier family (these are generally things they don't know)

And who in our family was named after him? (Your Uncle Chris)
And do you know why Chris Lillethun was such a wonderful dad? (He had 8 girls, and when his wife died, the youngest was only 2 years old, and he took really good care of them. He stayed home every night, would rassle and play on the floor with them...)

What is very cool, is this is when the parents get involved, and start making comments, and ask some questions.  I am hearing things like "I never knew that" "and "I didn't know that."  What had started out for the parents as a nice thing for grandma to do to teach their children some family history, is turning out that they are learning too.

I am writing the stories down and putting them in a notebook for each family, and calling it "Grandma Joan's Bedtime Stories." I've attached a picture of my outside cover for the notebook (me with all my grandkids). I always have several color pictures with each story. One or more are of the people in the story, and some from the internet as I go under 'Google Images'. (note from Janet: make sure you look for images that are licensed for public use.  The notebook has been a hit too. It is helping me get my life story written, and the activites I am doing with the kids bring the stories to life.


And when I go visit the grandkids in another state for a week, what am I going to do? Bring all my tea party items, and stories of course!

Have fun with your familes!"

Thanks Joan!

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Family Reunion Ideas

Along with Sandra Walsh's great ideas for a scavenger hunt "Amazing Race" about your family history, she also sent the schedule for the family reunion she organized with her grown children and their families.  What a wonderful party planner she is--as you can see below.  Each day had a theme, and lots of fun activities.  You can see how they fit in the family's history along with lots of fun,  building that family unity and family narrative that is unique to their own family.  They were making some great new family history along the way.  I'm sure these ideas can spark some ideas that will be unique to your family too.

Thanks so much Sandra for sharing!



Sunday, July 1
Theme:  Undercover Boss
5:00 p.m.         And we’re off!  Adult children and spouses meet at Texas Road House in Bountiful for dinner and visiting.  Mom and Dad appreciate spending this time with each of you.  We have some family business that we’ll discuss either at the restaurant or back at the parents’ house following dinner.  The rest of the evening is free to settle into the routine of being in Utah.  Jeremy’s family is staying at Mom and Dad’s home.

Monday, July 2
Theme:  Survivor
10 a.m.            Meet at Mom and Dad’s house to start the day.  Today we’ll get our groove on at LAGOON amusement park in Farmington.  We’d like to experience a family ride on the ferris wheel, then you’re free to divide into groups of daredevils or wimps to explore the rest of the rides and shows.  Enjoy lunch or a snack with your $10 treat voucher whenever you choose.  If you plan to spend the day at Lagoon, you may want to pack sandwiches or take along plenty of granola bars to keep your energy going.  Park hours are from 11 a.m. to 10 p.m.  The rest of the day is on your own.
2:30 p.m.         Mom and Dad will leave the park early to go pick up Grandma Holmes in Ogden and bring her back to NSL for the rest of the reunion.
4:15 p.m.         Mom and Dad plan to go to the SLC airport to meet Alan’s family when they arrive.  Al’s family will be staying at the Hampton Inn Salt Lake City Central (2055 S. Redwood Road; 801-886-0703) for the next three nights.

Tuesday, July 3
Theme:  Modern Family
9:15 a.m.         It’s Family Photo Time!  Please meet at the Farmington Rock Chapel (272 N. Main, Farmington) dressed in your shades of blue and brown and be ready to smile.  Dad will have stories to tell you about the Walsh family connection to this historic church, built in 1862. Our photographer is Joey Ferguson, a friend of Dad’s from the Deseret News. Photos will include: a large family group picture; Mom and Dad and grandkids; and Mom and Dad with their four adult sons.  Other poses may be available by request.
11 a.m. – 3:30 p.m.     Free time. 
3:30 p.m          Set up for the extended family reunion picnic.  We’d like one representative from each family to help us get things ready.  The location is:  Foxboro Regional Park and Splash Pad, bowery No. 3 (west side), 1140 West, 1100 North, North Salt Lake.
4 – 8 p.m.        Play at the splash pad, visit with the relatives, or enjoy various games this afternoon.  We’ll plan to eat about 5 p.m.  Local fireworks will light up the sky over North Salt Lake about 10 p.m.  You may watch from Brandon’s backyard or from Mom and Dad’s house.  Popcorn provided.

Wednesday, July 4
Theme:  ESPN Sports Center
9:00 a.m.         Meet at Mom and Dad’s house.  Family teams will depart at 9:30 a.m. for an AMAZING RACE experience around Salt Lake City.  Follow your clues to discover unusual sites around the area – with a few challenges or perhaps even a roadblock along the way!  Remember:  gnomes may be watching you!  There will be a lunch stop at a surprise location en route.
Afternoon:       You’ll have a little free time to relax or do whatever you’d like.
4 – 6:15 p.m.   Chris and Karen have invited everyone over for a Patriotic Cookout at their home in South Jordan.  Please stop at one of the local grocery stores to pick up a side dish, drinks or dessert to go along with the menu.
6:15 p.m.         Walsh men and boys will leave for an evening of baseball with the Salt Lake Bees.  There will be a fireworks show at the end of the game.
6:15 p.m.         Tonight the Walsh women and girls will get their giddy-up on at the West Jordan Stampede and rodeo.  Western attire is optional.

Thursday, July 5
Theme:  Let’s Make a Deal
8:30 a.m.         Our final family reunion activity will be a Pancake Breakfast at Mom and Dad’s home in NSL.  Thank you for making the effort to participate in these events and for being with us.  We love you all a great deal and are glad to have you in the Walsh family!  Now, with our blessings, it’s on to your next adventure!